So a lot of stuff happened this while I was working…one, we got more training on the DADT repeal, and it seemed to go fine. Our entire battalion had gotten together, and we had gone down to a training area and had to stay in barracks(lame). Anyways, late in the night, after a formal event a few females were hanging out in the racks, chatting about hair of all things. This gorgeous female(well call her Tara) I had met only once before(she’s in a different company), was in our racks as were a bunch of other females from other companies. So I didn’t notice Tara had a tattoo behind her ear, it was of two female symbols. In the middle of our conversation a female 1SG(first sergeant) walks in and immediately looks at Tara and says “I gotta know, you lick the pussy right? That’s why you have that tattoo!” and continues to make all these dumb ass remarks.
Tara says it’s a tattoo she got with her sister, and the room is completely quiet and awkward because of the 1SG. Mind you, Tara felt obligated having such a high ranking person come up and say “You lick the pussy”, and then to do it in front of everyone! Fuck that shit. Then the 1SG kept bugging her until she fesses up! I was pissed the fuck off. After 1SG gets the answer she wants, she proceeds to pretend everything is ok by saying she would “do” certain female celebrities just to brag about it to a guy——yada, yada, yada…whatever the fuck.
First off, to reduce someones sexual orientation to mere sexual acts is rude as hell, especially when you don’t know them well enough to comment or make jokes about it.
2nd off, to use your position of leadership to force someone to confess is beyond fuckin dirty, it makes you a sorry ass leader.
3rd, trying to make it better by saying you’d do a homosexual act just to brag about it if fucking lame, and it didn’t make shit better.
So, I left. I walked outta the room. The sad thing is, I had looked up to this 1SG early in my Army career, I hugged her only a few hours before because I hadn’t seen her in forever! Was she crude? Yeah, but what she did was fuckin dirty.
The next morning, I spoke to Tara and a male soldier(who is bisexual). She was really upset, and the male had gone through the same thing with the 1SG earlier that night. And to top it off, the 1SG walked around yelling that she was looking for Tara to ask if she was gay because of her tattoo. Fuckin’ really? So it wasn’t even contained to the barracks, it was announced to the whole fuckin battalion.
Something needed to be done.
I made a really tough decision, but it was the right own. I wrote a sworn statement about the 1SG and her actions. It was hard because I had looked up to her and I had worked for her, and there’s the fear of creating a rift of epic proportions in the battalion that will affect the working relationships I have with people, and the fear of retaliation. I reported her to the EO(equal opportunity) officer. It was a fuckin bold move, but it had to be done. Me stepping up as a leader, encouraged others to come forward with their part of the story. Her actions wasn’t even directed at me, but I have to look out for soldiers, and her using her position as a podium of abuse is not going to happen on my motherfuckin watch. This is why I became a leader, this is why I’m in the Army, to make a difference.
(my old mentor found out what happened, and called me saying thanks. He was impressed by the courage it took to speak up, especially in our battalion. It was nice to make him proud)
Action is already being taken, and they are keeping me informed of the process as it gets sent up the chain. It looks like she’ll get removed from command.
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It really breaks my heart to hear that people, especially people in command, think this is okay to do. Thank you SO much for having the balls to report her for that, thank you so so so so so much. We need to stand up for our rights, because even with DADT being repealed right now, people aren’t going to stop being homophobic. We have to stand up for our rights and let them know that we won’t be taking shit from them. Please keep us posted as to what happens.
- Kris